Creating a Dream List

When to use it

Use when you have many possible goals, feel unsure what matters, or need to reconsider an old priority.

How to use it

1. On a first page, write “What do I want?” Give yourself a quiet period to list ideas without ranking them yet. Include experiences, abilities, relationships and ways to help, as well as objects.

2. Let a younger learner draw or dictate ideas. Record their words without substituting an adult’s preferred ambitions.

3. On a second page, write “Dream List.” Select the item that matters most right now and put it first, then continue through the list.

4. Choose one top item to explore with a purpose story. Ask what makes it important, what achieving it would involve and what help is needed.

5. Separate an eventual dream from a step available now. Learning about an instrument may be possible before buying one, and saving a small amount may precede a larger purchase.

6. Review the order when circumstances or understanding change. Keep, revise, pause or replace a dream deliberately rather than treating an old list as a permanent command.

A worked example

A practical illustration of the method.

A child lists a bicycle, learning a song, more time with a parent and helping at a neighborhood cleanup. They rank learning the song first and family time second. The next step is to ask about a practice opportunity and suggest a shared walk. The list contains more than purchases, and its order belongs to the learner.

Use it thoughtfully

Do not confuse an expensive item with a more important goal.

A dream involving another person must respect that person’s choices.

Changed goals are allowed; revising the list is not evidence that the exercise failed.

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